Look, Paul, the reality is that I have no idea what you do or do not know about what’s been going on around here, and maybe just for me, I need to catch you up. For all I know you could simply be ashes buried deep; away from this well-lit world I walk in. For all I know you are “up there” bitchin’ about the fancy food and wondering when Earl’s gonna be on. So, that’s the place I’m going to imagine you while I write this little note. I mean, how can I think of you as just gone? Just buried ashes? At the same time, you know I haven’t let the bliss of religion take me over; we’ll just settle for “up there.”
In the place I keep you in my mind, you have all the sweet company of lost pets, your parents, and your former wife, Janet. We talked about it before you left, and I know where the balance of your love lies; Janet was the love before ours, I was the love of your present and future (huh! Some future!). You guys can hang out until I get there and then we’ll all be friends. We’ll probably ditch you and go antiquing anyway.
I’m sure my sis, Michaela, has found you by now. She’s the one cracking up, putting on fancy parties and trying to take care of everybody else. Our family friend Tommy is probably with her and you two are going to get along great—you both have that little sparkle in your eyes that I never did figure out. It does my heart good to think of the three of you having fun together, and you pulling them into your own family circle up there. You’ll probably sit around watching Johnny Carson with my grandma and ogling pretty women during the commercials with my Uncle Eddie.
There’s a precious little 3-year-old blond boy up there too now. He’s Jon’s son, Tiven, born just a few months after you left. That birth was an amazing event, and one of the only things that could get me out of the house. You’ll probably find him snuggled up with my sis, since she’s always been an awesome mommy. He needs one. And Tiven actually knows you, his papa, from all the pictures he’s seen and from all the stories we tell about you. You were so good with Nola and Cora, and I know you’ll just love our Tiven as much.
Anyway, honey, I miss you more than you can imagine, and I hope you are dealing with this better than me. I’m trying and I’m finally back to writing, so don’t nag about that. Just like we talked about, my hope is that our memoir will help others travel that rocky road of love, illness and death with better ease than we did. Well, I better get back to it.
Love you always,
Oh, and I know it’s you sending Tiven to wake me with his little kisses. Send more.
June 9, 2013 at 5:08 pm
Lovely blog and a lovely post above. Thank you for “liking” my post, To My Son. I look forward to following your writing blog.
June 9, 2013 at 8:08 pm
Yes, Lynne, that note to your son was beautiful. I will be following your site also. Take Care, Patti
June 18, 2013 at 1:54 pm
Very touching Patti. Almost too intimate to read… I can’t imagine the losses you bear. (Found you on the Artist’s Road site)
June 18, 2013 at 4:16 pm
Thank you for visiting, Michelle. There are those who would rather not be that close to raw pain, and maybe I should put a disclosure up? I hope that you found some of my other writing…less intimate.
Ah, the Artist’s Road…I submitted to contest there, I believe. Did you? I’ll run and see.
August 31, 2013 at 5:02 pm
Oh beautiful . I love that ! Thank you for sharing.
September 3, 2013 at 4:05 pm
I think Patti is a great writer. My heart hurts after reading some of her writings.
September 3, 2013 at 5:06 pm
Thank you sis, me too! xo
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