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Souvenirs from My Heart; Postcards-Eight and Nine


Net Spool and Seagulls Westport Marina, WA PHALL PHOTO 2013

Net Spool and Seagulls
Westport Marina, WA

Here is the 7th installment of the serialized version of a section of the memoir, Souvenirs from My heart; The Patient Patient Advocate. Paul has strange new symptoms,  another “episode” and we spend our last night at home for several months.

Postcard 1 here.

Postcard 2 here.

Postcards 3 & 4 here.

Postcard 5 here.

Postcard 6 here.

Postcard 7 here.

cont. medical history document…

July 14, 2008 The dentist verified that Paul had badly inflamed gum disease, with infection in his upper gums; his 4 upper front teeth would need to come out once the infection was eliminated. The dentist had never seen a disease progression as rapid as Paul’s. We set up a care program for home and a schedule to have the dental work done, beginning the following Monday. The dentist suggested that we go straight to an urgent care clinic to get prescriptions for relief of the stuffy nose and the gum infection. We did so and the clinic doctor gave Paul a prescription for an antibiotic and antihistamine. Paul saw no relief at all from these medicines over the next few days. We cancelled his dental appointment, since he wouldn’t be able to have the work done as long as he could only breathe out of his mouth.

July 18, 2008 Paul noticed red spots all over the tops of his feet and the front of his legs while taking his evening bath.

Postcard 8:

We now know that the red dots on feet and legs are another red flag for leukemia, especially in older men. We later heard of an older male in-law who died within weeks of seeing the red spots, because he never sought medical advice.

We called and talked to the pharmacist who had filled the prescriptions. She didn’t think it was an allergic reaction, but suggested that Paul see a doctor about it if we were worried. She seemed unconcerned.

July 20, 2008 The red spots were still covering Paul’s lower extremities. He stopped taking the antibiotic, just in case. Later that day he noticed a large, deep bruise on his inside forearm. We had no idea where it came from. For some reason, that one bruise, on top of everything else, really shook us up.

Almost a year earlier Paul hit his ankle with a piece of metal and it never completely healed…he did show it to his PCP during a routine exam, but his doc just shrugged his shoulders and mumbled, “Huh?” By July 20th, Paul and I were both confused and worried about his mounting symptoms. In my journal entry the next morning, I wrote, “We don’t know what’s happening with P’s health, but we held each other all night long. No late night TV. None of our nighttime silliness or midnight snacks. Don’t have to say a thing. I know that we’re both worried as hell. When I got back  in bed from peeing at about 2 a.m., he pulled me close to his chest and held on ‘til morning.”

That would be the last night for months that we slept in a bed together. It would also be one of our last good night’s sleep.

Postcard 9:

This postcard is a reminder to jot new or unusual symptoms in a family or personal calendar or journal. Between getting older, and the emotional confusion, should a medical crisis happen, it is easy to forget important little health details. Better yet, keep a family medical journal handy. What a time-saver if it is ever needed! You can buy these or make your own with online forms that you can print out at home.

////only 2 or 3 more installments////

Other notes:

***The postcards are nearing the end, and then I hope to have some good news to tell you about them.

***An article I wrote about the beginning love affair with my blue-eyed man has been selected to be in a PAYING contest later this month! Get your voting fingers ready again. 

***Watch for Monday’s selection of pictures and quotes from some unusual reading places and habits of THE WRITE PLACE community members. That’s you, peeps:>)  Send your photo and quote to my email below.

***My youngest sis suggested we make the reading photos and quotes a regular feature here. What shall we call it? How about, “You Read Where?” or “Where Do YOU Read?” or “Reading Places” or “Places I Read”  I don’t know, you guys come up with something, or do you think I should do all the work around here? Don’t answer that:>)

Email photos and quotes to me at: 1writeplacewordpress at gmail dot com

Thanks for hanging in there, and your comments are especially appreciated.


Author: Patti Singleton

Pursuits of happiness include gardening, walking the desert, reading, writing, photography, traveling and genealogy.

18 thoughts on “Souvenirs from My Heart; Postcards-Eight and Nine

  1. I have a whole post on nothing but how I set the mood for my reading…I read all over the yard/porch and house. I will snap a pic of my husband reading tonight. he’ll love that.

  2. Postcard 8 was a chilling reminder for me. My grandfather was healthy, active, sharp until he turned 86. He developed the red dots on his feet and legs, and yes, it was leukemia.

    • Dear Marilyn,
      I’m sorry to jog sad memories. The dots are pretty common, yet so many people would have a better chance it more people were aware. My daughter worked in nursing homes for a short time and she knew about it, but we didn’t ask her.
      Thank you for joining us here.
      Hugs and warm wishes, Patti

  3. Saddest postcards I’ve ever read… But I’m enjoying your writing and your love story and I’m so glad that you’re sharing it. Idea: The Read Place???

    • I know they are mostly sad, I’m sorry. it seemed like a good way to remind or inform people of the things we learned the hard way. It is a work in progress…maybe I could insert a “love” postcard in each section, or something more upbeat…hmmm will think on it.
      Missed your presence here:>) Hope all is well. I like your suggestion a lot, as it goes so well with our community title.

  4. Read Would (Forest)
    Read Zone
    Code Read
    Read Book
    Read Rover
    Read Tide
    Read Head(s)
    Read Writing Hood
    Where The Read Book Grows
    Books Nooks

    Well there’s a few ideas…

  5. Oh! Congratulations on your article! Hoping all is well and that your gardening is progressing. **hugs**

    • Over did it and took two days off. drove to see family today. Back to garden tomorrow. Even have my son here for the night. He’s teaching me to juice:>)

  6. This is a very horrifying story. How the medical personnel were so cavalier as the symptoms mounted. I just want to shake them. I’m so sorry. xo Patti, thank you so much for your supportive comments on “Still Photo.” I really appreciate it. I cherish your blog and your reading of mine.

    • I know, Luanne, but have never had the heart to deal with it. I have read cancer and other memoirs that do nothing but rant about the medical community. That is not my intention. I tell it for overall context, not to blame or rant. i want others to know what to be careful about.
      I cherish our friendship and am so grateful that we found each other:>)

  7. This was a very moving post, I felt the shock of the bruise as a tide turner…as you describe the accumulation of symptoms, yes, I can see the value of keeping a dated record. And congratulations on the article…my voting fingers are poised! Love and blessings, Harula xxx

  8. I love your post cards. They show the courage to take action, and to learn from experience. Perhaps because I have had similar experience, they are very real to me, and I concur with your advice to the letter.

    • Thanks, Susan, it’s good to hear that my postcards make sense to others who have walked a similar path. Glad to have you in our community to add your thoughts, oh and that smiling face:>)

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