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EDDD 20: The Nature Of The Beast; The Friendly Side Of Social Media

“Friendship is born at that moment when one man says to another:

“What! You too? I thought that no one but myself . . .””
― C.S. LewisThe Four Loves

Let’s make that, “one person,” just to keep my inner humanist happy:>) Other than that one word, I’d say this quote is pretty much the mantra of Word Press. The “You too?” of it is what keeps “real” life support groups, and even service organizations going. I think it is the basic element that underlies many online social media forms.

Sure, we may be trying to build our “platform,” sell our book or our product. We may even be trying to “sell” our way of thinking; our own opinions. But underneath it all, when you post something that makes people think or write, You too? the human to human connection is made.

I’d venture to say that very few of us have the opportunity to share or receive many You too? moments in “real” life (RL). That’s usually where best friends come in. Sadly, many people out there just don’t have best friends, or any friends. I’ve run across several people like that online since I started my blog in March. Too many.

We are still judging people by their outside appearance; their clothes, their cars, their income and their socially acceptable rating on the attractiveness scale. We see none of that online, at least we don’t in the beginning. When we do see a photo, it is usually the best of the best that we can come up with, but often it is a cartoon or our cat or an anonymous design or shadow figure.

So we don’t know if they are a hippy, a banker, a butcher, a baker or a candle stick maker. We just know that we had that You too? feeling about something they wrote. The funny thing is, that it may be months before we find out that their political or religious beliefs are completely, totally, thoroughly OPPOSITE of ours.

Now what? That’s the interesting thing, to me, at least. Now we mentally get out the paper and pen to do the pro/con list, or we dig out the scales, to weigh the heft of “OPPOSITE” against “YOU TOO?”  It is my belief that if you have strong opposing beliefs, with little tolerance for the other side, and/or you have a bus load of friends in RL, you exit, stage left. On the other hand, if you are tolerant of other belief systems and/or have few, if any friends in RL, you hang in there.

Is this too simplistic or totally erroneous? What do you think? I confess, I am a cave woman, a loner (duh, you know that). I am very lucky to have 4 long-time best friends. I have solid friends that I have not known as long, and I have an incredibly supportive family. Why they put up with my anti-social ways, I may never know, but they do.

Then, I have this incredibly supportive group of friends online, including some from the previous paragraph. And STILL that You too? matters so much to me.  It matters so much, that I don’t care if we have some opposing beliefs. Hell, I am out of step with the strong beliefs of most of my RL family and friends! Really. And judging by Facebook posts, I’m REALLY out of step, or out of line, as they would say if they had the chance.

I will admit that I have stopped following a few people who I did not have the You too? feeling for in the first place, and in the second place, they showed their mean, cruel or intolerant side. I just love saying, “I will not tolerate intolerance!” That just cracks me up. But it is true.

How many creative artists have we missed in our everyday lives? How much knowledge has gone unknown? How many loving, compassionate people have we ignored? They have always been there, sometimes in our own circle. And now they are out there shining and being accepted and winning recognition, and best of all, they are building friendships. I hope they find my blog soon.

My point is that these blogs, and other social media forms, are bringing us closer together. (Okay, maybe not facebook:>) They are testing our tolerance, and I think we are all winning. We are getting to know and become friends with people from all walks of life. When that banker finds out that the guy he’s been sharing poetry with is a damn hippy, he hangs in because they have forged some kind of bond. (I do realize that the banker could BE a hippy.)

Do you see it too? Leave a comment and share your thoughts, please.

Peace,

Patti, who is not a hippy or a banker:>)

Okay, one totally unrelated photo…

beautiful blue sky and cottony clouds 2 days ago. Westport, WA PHALL PHOTO 2013

beautiful blue sky and cottony clouds 2 days ago. Westport, WA
PHALL PHOTO 2013

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Every Damn Day? Who’s idea was this anyway? The culprit can be found here: Every Damn Day December at http://treatmentofvisions.com/2013/11/26/evdadadec/


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EDDD 15; Gift Of The Thingy In The Top Corner and Comment Courtesy

My WP notification thingy (technical term) is not working properly and so I am going back to old posts to see who I’ve missed. So sorry, if I missed your comment. Especially frustrating (and funny), considering my post (http://wp.me/p3i5jo-j4) about comments! In the top right-hand corner of your blog page is “New Post” then an icon that lights up when you have a new comment from one of your posts. That’s the “notification thingy” I’m referring to. Right? I forget how long it took me to figure that out. I used to open each blog post to look for and reply to comments. Once I realized that the icon became red when I had a new comment, I never went back to my old procedure.

Earlier today, I opened a recent post to copy something from it, and I noticed a comment that didn’t have my reply under it. Weird. Then I noticed another one. I checked to see if there was a red “2” under my site title on the top left; nope, then I opened “Comments” in the dashboard, and they were highlighted here. But the other unanswered comments that I found were NOT highlighted in the dashboard comment section. As I opened and checked my previous posts, I found one or two unanswered comments in almost every post this month and some in November. Sheesh! So, there I was writing a post about comment courtesy, when I was a culprit myself! How embarrassing.

Okay, I’m over it. I laughed at myself, cussed WordPress, and replied to my errant comments. I stopped looking by the mid-November posts, because I think I got them all. If I didn’t, I sincerely apologize for this mess. I value each and every person in this community. Looking back at all those posts was really good for boosting my I-am-loved level. You people are incredible supporters! My photos, writing, grieving and happiness have enough value and meaning that you all chime in to encourage and cheer. This was like a gift wasn’t it?

I have to consider that this “gift”/glitch that made me look back at the wonderful comments, may not have been an accident. Was it the universe telling me to wake up and smell the roses in my life? The roses being YOU and YOU and YOU. Was I being told to un-snag myself from the thorns on the lower branches and make my way to the beauty at the top of each branch? And how about the writing and photos that I shared? Basically, once I shared them with you, I was done with them. I remember the feeling of racing to get them posted and then…I never looked at them again.

The thingy in the top corner would light up and I’d reply right there, without ever returning to the post itself. Hmmm. I think I need to stop using the thingy! Duh. It took more time, but I got a lot of happiness out of looking at the old posts, photos and comments. I’m a convert! Amazing lessons and gifts show up in the funniest places. Like in a glitch, in the thingy, in the top corner.

Here’s a photo from yesterday’s beach adventure. I look forward to seeing and enjoying it many times, as I reply to your comments:>)

Bubbles on beach stones. Lots of foam on beach today, like someone added too much soap to the wash load. I suppose that is about what it is. Human pollution? A real life conundrum; enjoy the beauty that is probably a result of pollution?

Bubbles on beach stones. Lots of foam on beach yesterday, like someone added too much soap to the wash load. I suppose that is about what it is. Human pollution? A real life conundrum; enjoy the beauty that is probably a result of pollution? PHALL PHOTO 2013

Referring to yesterday’s health info post, here is a link to a very good set of forms for family medical info :http://www.miamihealth.com/downloads/FamilyMedicalHistoryForm.pdf 

“See” you soon and hope you find time to look at your own previous posts,

Patti

Every Damn Day? Who’s idea was this anyway?

From writing challenge Every Damn Day December at http://treatmentofvisions.com/2013/11/26/evdadadec/


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I Made A Mistake; 2 Mistakes, Really

Header of THE WRITE PLACE

Header of THE WRITE PLACE

Below Header, front page of THE WRITE PLACE

Below Header, front page of THE WRITE PLACE

These are not Hollywood or politician mistakes. After all, no one caught me red-handed and forced a confession (or pointless denial). I haven’t ruined my reputation, let down my fans or lost constituency votes.

One mistake has to do with being a newbie at website building, the other is about actual content. Both mistakes are based on what I ASSUMED–making an ASS out of U and ME :>)

Business (Writing) vs Personal

In my last post I included information about why I would be absent for a day or two (an assumption that I have some huge readership that would even notice).  Explaining the why details of my absence was another mistake.

I initiated this website to build a community of  like-minded readers and writers who would exchange support and information on the  path to publishing books. What they call a writer’s platform,  is a #1 must-have for anyone publishing in this new computer based world; whether traditional or self-published, you must have an established following online.

I knew that I could do my part in supporting fellow writers and welcoming readers; although I am a cave girl/hermit/beach gypsy I am a great anonymous hostess. That is because I feel deeply. This is no marketing ploy, it is who I am.

Off-Line Family and Friends (F/F)

That said, I also maintain an e-mail bloggish kind of thing that is sent semi-regularly to my little circle of family and friends. My intention was to keep personal stuff on the F/F e-mails only. It’s tough to maintain that when a lot of my writing includes my personal life. All that to say: I intend to get back to my initial intention and keep details of  my “real” F/F off this site. It’s not that they mind at all. And it’s not just the mention, but there are aspects of my family’s life that I do want to keep off this public venue. Nothing mysterious, just not for public consumption.

Viewpoints

Now, onto my other assumption mistake. I was blown away to see what my blog site looks like on my aunt’s pc and my daughter’s smart phone. My aunt can only see 2 columns and the smart phone only shows one. You can see in the pics above, what I thought everyone was seeing (3 columns with header). Big difference, huh? So, now I get to do some homework and see if there is a wordpress  “theme” (template) that will work better for everyone who views this site. I also know that browsers make a difference, so I will explore that too. I use the  Google Chrome browser, so I will check out IE, foxfire, and others. I am growling over this, since I have spent the past 3+ months building my little cyber home.

Comments and “likes”

I got to see firsthand why some can’t comment on or like my blog posts.  You do have to sign up with wordpress, but you only have to give your e-mail addy and make a password. That is good, because it gives one level of security to my site. Sorry for the hassle though. I can’t remember what you click on, but you’ll know it when you see it…scroll down to the place that says “log in” “RSS” etc and it is there. When you get to the WordPress  page it looks like you have to make a blog, but you don’t. On the right is part of a sentence that is colored (hyperlinked) and says something like, “I want to sign on without building a blog page”, click that, put in your e-addy and a password and you’re in! I went through this process with my aunt, but forgot to take notes.

I will add the word you click on as soon as I get it from someone who is not on wordpress :>)

If you have wordpress website or browser advice I would love to hear/read it.

Please add comments, questions or “like” if you are able to.

Patti